With the economy being what it is, it's very clear to me that there are more couples than ever in trouble. Couples are fighting more.... they're completely stressed out, and they don't have anyone to take it out on but themselves and each other. Unfortunately, this sort of situation usually ends up in divorce or separation.
I've been there - I know how it is to lose a spouse. It's completely devastating. I mean, you make a commitment with another person when you get married... and you both have the best of intentions... but somewhere along the way, the "passion" that brought you together got lost. Where did it all go wrong?
The first thing you need to understand is that it's nobody's "fault". If you and your spouse have separated (or even filed for divorce), then there's probably a lot of finger pointing going on. He's too obsessed with work; she nags about the housework; his friends are crass and obnoxious; she spends too much money....
And then there's the stress of raising children. We love them dearly... but let's face it, raising children takes its toll on even the best of marriages. Suddenly, what was once a romantic relationship becomes eroded - a shadow of its former self. Who has time for romance when there are diapers to change, softball games to coach, and science fair project to salvage?
See, any one issue in a marriage can be resolved. It's when you don't face these issues that the problem begins. You and your spouse just sort of dump them into a pile, hoping they'll go away. Instead, they sit in that pile and fester... becoming more and more toxic... until those "annoyances" fester into downright "deal-breakers".
The good news is, you have the power to turn your relationship around, even if the divorce papers have been filed. By objectively looking at the strategies you need to restore your marriage, you can make profound, nearly-instant change happen - even if you're the only one who wants to save the marriage right now.
If you're wanting to get started right away so you can get your ex back, I recommend a course called Save the Marriage by Dr. Lee Baucom. This course really did save my own marriage (even though my wife had given up on "us"), and the no-nonsense techniques in this course can help save yours too.
The course costs about as much as a dinner out... quite a bit less than you'd spend on "marriage counseling" (and a lot more effective).
I look forward to helping you save your own marriage - you can do it!
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